Just for Guys
Issues and Questions
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If you decide to become sexually active, you need to think through the issues.
Condoms and other birth control methods do not guarantee that your partner will not become pregnant. As a matter of fact, over a million young women in this country face unplanned pregnancies each year.
There is also no way to 100% protect yourself or your partner from STI's (Sexually Transmitted Infections).? Condoms only reduce your risk of contracting many STI's by 50% and only reduce your risk of getting HIV by 85%.
The emotional consequences of sex are also something to consider.? Regret and depression are common.? It is also difficult to stop having sex once you start.? Once you become sexually active with someone, it is very difficult to continue that relationship without continuing to have sex.? It also becomes difficult to not be sexually active in future relationships.
Here are some serious questions a responsible man should ask himself:
- If your girlfriend became pregnant would you leave her? (Unfortunately, many boyfriends do.)
- Are you ready to support a child with your time, energy, and money?
- Will you go with your girlfriend to tell her parents the news? (Most guys won't.)
- Are you willing to marry her and give your child a two-parent family?
- Would you be willing to release your child for an adoption?
- Will you put pressure on her to have an abortion? (The majority of boyfriends will.)
- Are you willing to learn all about abortion so that you can anticipate possible medical complications and likely relationship problems?
If you are not ready to be a father and commit yourself in marriage to one woman, you should wait to have sex. The pain you can cause to a child and your girlfriend is very real. It happens everyday. Be responsible for your actions and exercise your self-control.
Are you sexually active? Is she pregnant already??Pathways is here for men too.
If you are serious about your relationship and desire to be there for your girlfriend, give us a call at 641-628-4827 or 1-800-395-HELP or stop by during office hours.?We have trained peer-counselors that would love to speak with you and help you understand all of your options. All conversations are completely confidential.